Family Problems… That I Have Tried Fixing, Believe Me, What Do I Do?

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My mother is needy, lonely, and emotionally abusive. I think she has some sort of mental problem from getting emotionally abused most of her life (by her own mother) and from getting physically abused by two of her lovers. One of them was my father (they are divorced now and have been for about 8 years, but they were together for about 15 years) and the other one banged her head against a door jam and it may have done damage to her brain, the reason why he did this was because she told him that she thought he was cheating on her. It was quite obvious that he was though, because he dropped hints all the time and even I noticed it. The men that were physically abusive are long gone out of her life now though. The problem right now is, she is still talking to her emotionally abusive family. She almost has to because we are running out of money and she owes a lot to credit cards, and she’s also trying to get her taxes done for my big sister’s college tuition money so she can complete college and become a Biology teacher. The reason why she has to keep in touch with this abusive family is because her mother is dying from cancer, and she has put my mother on a trust. She is also giving most of the money to my mother’s brothers, who are well on their feet and do not need the money like we do. My mother also can’t get a job easily because she is older (54 years old) and we live in the country in the middle of nowhere and can’t afford to drive far away to work. She is trying out this internet business thing, and she also just recently patented two inventions that may become very popular. The thing is, I will be going off to college in 2 years. I used to want to go to college in North Carolina or South Carolina. She wanted to come with me. But now I have made my final decision and want to go college in Masssachusetts. I have told her where I want to go and now she wants to follow me there too. But I don’t want her to follow me, I want space. Because from getting abused most of her life, she is also abusive. And she also has a pretty bad Bipolar disorder, which she denies having and refuses to see a therapist or go on medication to help it. But she has been emotionally abusing me ever since my sister moved out to go to college. But when my sister was living here, it was her that she was emotionally abusing and buttering me up. But now it’s the opposite. She favors my sister and acts like she misses her so much and acts like I’m a piece of shit. She has called me a bitch much more than I can count. I have done nothing wrong to her, and neither one of me or my sister deserves this. But she wants to live with both of us, and neither of us want that. Another thing is, she has said that she feels crazy. She says a lot of times she doesn’t want to do anything at all, and sometimes she says she feels like killing people (literally). Sometimes she says she wants to be put in a mental home. What do I do? She refuses to go see a therapist/take medication. I think she has a mild case of scizophrenia. Because she sometimes thinks that me and my sister are trying to make her go homeless or “fail” when the only thing we are trying to do is get away from her. She says that she thinks we want to see her suffer. Please help!

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Answer by (Christian (.Miniister)|
1st of all, maybe you think people/parents can talk anyway they see fit and never lie. Turns out many are abusers. Actually they are not trying to be tough to make you better or help- they are tricking you. This goes for people at school as well. Words are abuse also.

There are many types of abusive people/parents. Some ignore you. Some hit the bottle. Some hit you. And some run their mouths and put you down. THEY are sick and feel great by being mean, and thats the only reason they do it. They are wrong about everything. The typical abuser is close-minded, self-righteous and was also abused themself. Use defense and read many sites on verbal abuse etc. People tear you down or give irratating advice to build themselves up. They have problems.

Remember- Abuse always involves some deception mixed in.

Abuse causes pain mistaken as mental problems- Cutting, OCD etc. Psychiatrists commit fraud in that all disorders are only emotions. For chemical imbalances NO test exists. You dont have what shrinks say you have. Dont tell abusers about any so called disorders. They will only drug you.

Jesus name and forgiving others who are wrong is important along with avoiding them.

Call or I can- Child Protective Services- Transitional housing to age 21- tell your teacher. Dont tell your parents they wont listen.

Learn the truth, forgive, and Get Away from them. Read many many sites under “emotional abuse” and “dealing with bullies”.

I have some questions for you if want to talk about it.

http://www.googobits.com/articles/2446-inside-the-mind-of-an-abuser-what-you-need-to-know.html

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